Chapter 29 - Amy: Conclusion
"The pedophile's greatest tool is listening, so that must be your greatest defense in protecting your children from sexual abuse.", page 232, para. 1. I cannot emphasize enough how important this is except to say, stay alert, stay compassionate and stay on top of the situation. You as a parent are the first line of defense and the most important line of defense against a pedophile getting his mind and eventually his hands wrapped around your child.
I encourage all parents, grandparents, teachers and others who interact with children on a regular basis to read and take to heart what Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin learned and shared with her readers during the process of writing this book.
Your comments are appreciated.
Monday, September 7, 2009
Conversation With a Pedophile: Chapter 28 - Alan: Advice for Parents, book by, Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin
Chapter 28 - Alan: Advice for Parents
Alan speaks to parents of children who have been molested, "He or she is going to need a lot of help. You are going to need a lot of help. And at the same time, you are going to have to be a big part of the help that your child receives. there isn't much that you alone can do for your child because you don't know what he or she has been through. So the priorities right now should be that boy or girl, while the memories are very, very fresh and the pain is very, very real, you get the child to someone that she or he can relate to so that he or she can let out all that has happened. page 226, para. 3.
Amy speaks to parents of sexually dysfunctional children (children who may themselves become child perpetrators of younger children), "A mild level of sexual dysfunction may result from witnessing sexual acts on screen or in real life. Seeing these acts may have been extremely upsetting to him, and he may feel too guilty to talk about it with his parents. He is left alone to deal with his feelings of uneasiness and lack of knowledge about what he saw. These feelings may cause him to behave in sexually aggressive ways toward girls and women in his environment for no apparent reason. He may poke adults buttocks or pull on their breasts. He may engage in sexualized play with his toys or with his body. While it is typical for a child or an adolescent to be extremely curious about his own body, as well as others, it is not normal for a youngster to show an interest that is aggressively or obsessively expressed." page 227, para 3.
Your comments are appreciated.
Alan speaks to parents of children who have been molested, "He or she is going to need a lot of help. You are going to need a lot of help. And at the same time, you are going to have to be a big part of the help that your child receives. there isn't much that you alone can do for your child because you don't know what he or she has been through. So the priorities right now should be that boy or girl, while the memories are very, very fresh and the pain is very, very real, you get the child to someone that she or he can relate to so that he or she can let out all that has happened. page 226, para. 3.
Amy speaks to parents of sexually dysfunctional children (children who may themselves become child perpetrators of younger children), "A mild level of sexual dysfunction may result from witnessing sexual acts on screen or in real life. Seeing these acts may have been extremely upsetting to him, and he may feel too guilty to talk about it with his parents. He is left alone to deal with his feelings of uneasiness and lack of knowledge about what he saw. These feelings may cause him to behave in sexually aggressive ways toward girls and women in his environment for no apparent reason. He may poke adults buttocks or pull on their breasts. He may engage in sexualized play with his toys or with his body. While it is typical for a child or an adolescent to be extremely curious about his own body, as well as others, it is not normal for a youngster to show an interest that is aggressively or obsessively expressed." page 227, para 3.
Your comments are appreciated.
Conversation With a Pedophile: Chapter 27 - Amy: Strategies for Better Communication, book by, Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin
Chapter 27 - Amy: Strategies for Better Communication
Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin wants to focus on prevention of child abuse by offering suggestions to parents on ways of opening up paths of communication. When parents ask Dr. Hammel-Zabin about protecting their children she answers, "Communication. This may seem too general and too obvious, but I believe that parents can establish methods of communicating with their children that are unlike anything we have seen before in parenting. It's important to remember that until a generation ago or so, the conventional wisdom dictated that children were to be seen and not heard and that adults - any adults - are the ultimate authorities in a child's life." page 212, para. 3. Thankfully, this attitude has changed in most cultures, however, parents are still not able to talk about anything as terrifying and private as childhood sexual abuse. Family discussion groups are critical to open communication. Set up an appointment time with your family of approximately 30 minutes to an hour depending on their age and attention span. The rules of the family discussion group are, no rules. This is one time the child can say anything they want to with no reprimand. Assure them all topics are open for discussion, from curse words, movies, friends, family, sex, birth, death, suicide, masturbation, anything they have heard, seen or think can be discussed. Open communication between a child and parent takes time and a parent must make communication a vital part of the family life. If your child is old enough start them writing in a journal. Often a child will write things down they are not comfortable saying, then one of the topics in the family meeting could be from the journal if the child wishes to refer to his or her journal for subject matter. Allowing your child to express their concerns in the fashion of dreams is also encouraged. Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin was successful with encouraging lyric writing. Even if your child forms their statement in reference to a friend or someone else, consider they may be trying to tell you something about themselves.
Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin asks Alan to comment on the importance of family communication, "Saying 'I love you' to a child who is totally convinced that you don't even know him, and that if you did, you could never love him, simply isn't enough. First, we need to make that child feel that he or she really is important to us and that what we love is all of them, including their bad parts, their fears, and their failures. Somehow, we need to begin to say I love you...who you are...not what you are. And we desperately need to learn that communication is only one part talking, followed by one part listening. I abused so many innocent children simply because I was willing to listen and to let them see my imperfections." page 213, para.4. The importance of this statement cannot be overemphasized. If we as parents are able to remove this important tool pedophiles use then we are one huge step closer to protecting our children and empowering them to protect themselves.
Amy discusses the following seven critical paths of communication with your child and strategies to accomplish open communication:
Your comments are appreciated.
Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin wants to focus on prevention of child abuse by offering suggestions to parents on ways of opening up paths of communication. When parents ask Dr. Hammel-Zabin about protecting their children she answers, "Communication. This may seem too general and too obvious, but I believe that parents can establish methods of communicating with their children that are unlike anything we have seen before in parenting. It's important to remember that until a generation ago or so, the conventional wisdom dictated that children were to be seen and not heard and that adults - any adults - are the ultimate authorities in a child's life." page 212, para. 3. Thankfully, this attitude has changed in most cultures, however, parents are still not able to talk about anything as terrifying and private as childhood sexual abuse. Family discussion groups are critical to open communication. Set up an appointment time with your family of approximately 30 minutes to an hour depending on their age and attention span. The rules of the family discussion group are, no rules. This is one time the child can say anything they want to with no reprimand. Assure them all topics are open for discussion, from curse words, movies, friends, family, sex, birth, death, suicide, masturbation, anything they have heard, seen or think can be discussed. Open communication between a child and parent takes time and a parent must make communication a vital part of the family life. If your child is old enough start them writing in a journal. Often a child will write things down they are not comfortable saying, then one of the topics in the family meeting could be from the journal if the child wishes to refer to his or her journal for subject matter. Allowing your child to express their concerns in the fashion of dreams is also encouraged. Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin was successful with encouraging lyric writing. Even if your child forms their statement in reference to a friend or someone else, consider they may be trying to tell you something about themselves.
Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin asks Alan to comment on the importance of family communication, "Saying 'I love you' to a child who is totally convinced that you don't even know him, and that if you did, you could never love him, simply isn't enough. First, we need to make that child feel that he or she really is important to us and that what we love is all of them, including their bad parts, their fears, and their failures. Somehow, we need to begin to say I love you...who you are...not what you are. And we desperately need to learn that communication is only one part talking, followed by one part listening. I abused so many innocent children simply because I was willing to listen and to let them see my imperfections." page 213, para.4. The importance of this statement cannot be overemphasized. If we as parents are able to remove this important tool pedophiles use then we are one huge step closer to protecting our children and empowering them to protect themselves.
Amy discusses the following seven critical paths of communication with your child and strategies to accomplish open communication:
- empowerment - "Perhaps the easiest way to raise children who trust their own opinions is to let them know early on that their opinions have real value. Give your children choices in their daily lives - what they want for dinner, what they wear to school, where the family goes on short trips. Even though many of these choices may seem inconsequential at the time, they serve to build a child's self-esteem as well as the sense that they exercise a degree of control over their own lives." page 216, para. 3
- secrecy versus privacy - "Let your children know that they can trust you. Demonstrate that you are able to keep their confidences, and always respect their desire for confidentiality, even if you don't entirely understand their reasons. Structure your confidences in such a way that avoids bargaining or bribery." page 119, para. 3,
- the open door policy - "The open-door policy should apply to all family members. Try to ensure that there is interaction among all members of the family, including the adults." page 220, para. 2.
- ask and be told - "Here again, you will encourage your child to be more communicative if you are forthcoming with details of your days, as well. Coax your kids to ask you questions: How was work? What happened at your meeting? Where did you go for lunch?" page 221, para. 2.
- pay attention - "We need to remind ourselves to look at our children's bodies and listen to their feelings about them. Why does his head hurt before church each week? Why does she get a stomachache right before the baby-sitter arrives? page 222, para. 1.
- try to understand - "As your child speaks of an upsetting situation, try phrases like 'that must have been awful' or 'I hear you saying ______'. This helps the child feel that your are truly attentive and are getting the gist of the situation. Ask for clarification if you don't understand something, and do this in a gentle way. 'I need help getting what you meant when you said she _____What does that mean?" page 223, para. 2.
- trust your gut - "Perhaps we can't do better than the old adage: Better safe than sorry. Apply it to all the relationships your child has with other people. You don't have to become hypervigilant or sever ties with anyone who makes you uncomfortable without apparent reason, but it does mean you must be cautious. Don't leave your child alone with anyone who makes you uneasy, even if that person is a relative." page 224, para. 2
Your comments are appreciated.
Conversation With a Pedophile: Chapter 26, Amy: Advice for Protectng Your Children, book by Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin
Chapter 26 - Amy: Advice for Protecting Your Children
Amy writes, "I once asked Alan what his greatest weapon was in his crusade to ensnare and abuse hundreds of children. He answered quickly and succinctly with one word - "listening." page 207, para. 1. As I think about this answer, I realize I am guilty of not always listening to my grandchildren. Mostly because they often seem to talk simply as a means of garnering attention over their siblings. However, I may be unintentionally tuning out important information they are trying to share.
Bedtime is convenient and productive, I read a book to all and then alternate each night lying with one of them for about 15 minutes. To avoid falling asleep they will begin talking and telling me stories. I don't pry or ask questions. I simply listen to what they are telling me. I love them all very much and cherish their love and trust for me, so this good night ritual seems to work for all of us. I encourage all parents to carve out quality time with each of their children. Time to just to listen. Amy find music rather than discussion a viable medium for communication with children.
Amy notes, " Ask to listen to your children's favorite music. Regardless of how you feel about this particular music, listen in an open, engaging way. You do not want them to feel that you are interested in it only to condemn it. This mere request will make your children feel recognized and important." page 208, para. 1. Remember that when you listen to your children's stories or their music you are filling a potential gap in their lives you do not want filled by a pedophile such as Alan.
Your comments are appreciated.
Amy writes, "I once asked Alan what his greatest weapon was in his crusade to ensnare and abuse hundreds of children. He answered quickly and succinctly with one word - "listening." page 207, para. 1. As I think about this answer, I realize I am guilty of not always listening to my grandchildren. Mostly because they often seem to talk simply as a means of garnering attention over their siblings. However, I may be unintentionally tuning out important information they are trying to share.
Bedtime is convenient and productive, I read a book to all and then alternate each night lying with one of them for about 15 minutes. To avoid falling asleep they will begin talking and telling me stories. I don't pry or ask questions. I simply listen to what they are telling me. I love them all very much and cherish their love and trust for me, so this good night ritual seems to work for all of us. I encourage all parents to carve out quality time with each of their children. Time to just to listen. Amy find music rather than discussion a viable medium for communication with children.
Amy notes, " Ask to listen to your children's favorite music. Regardless of how you feel about this particular music, listen in an open, engaging way. You do not want them to feel that you are interested in it only to condemn it. This mere request will make your children feel recognized and important." page 208, para. 1. Remember that when you listen to your children's stories or their music you are filling a potential gap in their lives you do not want filled by a pedophile such as Alan.
Your comments are appreciated.
Conversation With a Pedophile: Chapter 25 - Amy: Handling Sex Offenders
Chapter 25 - Amy: Handling Sex Offenders
Amy begins this chapter by stating: "What is the best way to handle sexual offenders? I don't have the answer. I only know, both professionally and personally, what doesn't work. In prisons, I see only more street-savvy molesters being released. I believe that stringent therapy, combined with custody of child molesters, is the best shot we have at protecting our children and addressing the epidemic of sexual abuse that continues to afflict our society." page 202, para. 1. Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin spent many years in both psychiatric hospitals and prisons. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on adults who had both psychiatric illnesses as well as histories of sexual abuse. She found the two linked in most cases. She also found that patients are not asked directly about past abuse. Psychiatric patients may wish to discuss abuse, but are afraid to because of the current laws requiring the patient to be reported to the authorities if the patient is deemed to be a threat to children.
I spent 3 months in a rehabilitation hospital as an out-patient recovering from alcohol abuse. I remember there were no questions asked about childhood abuse. While talking privately to other patients, many revealed some type of real or perceived abuse. However, it seemed to me that the patients goals were to serve their time in rehab and get released; the doctors main concern was to give the patients coping mechanisms to live their life day to day without abusing their drug of choice. All too often physicians deal with controlling the symptoms and not the underlying problems causing the symptoms.
In conclusion of this chapter Amy states, "When we get past the outrage, perhaps we may more clearly see our way into how to deal more effectively with the problem: how to treat criminals who have victimized children, how to help those who are beginning to become sexual predators, and how to empower our children so that they may become invulnerable to sexual abuse." page 206, para.2. Until that day arrives, pedophiles who abuse children forfeit their access to children. Future generations of children should be protected at all costs. Abuse must stop here and now.
Your comments are appreciated.
Amy begins this chapter by stating: "What is the best way to handle sexual offenders? I don't have the answer. I only know, both professionally and personally, what doesn't work. In prisons, I see only more street-savvy molesters being released. I believe that stringent therapy, combined with custody of child molesters, is the best shot we have at protecting our children and addressing the epidemic of sexual abuse that continues to afflict our society." page 202, para. 1. Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin spent many years in both psychiatric hospitals and prisons. She wrote her doctoral dissertation on adults who had both psychiatric illnesses as well as histories of sexual abuse. She found the two linked in most cases. She also found that patients are not asked directly about past abuse. Psychiatric patients may wish to discuss abuse, but are afraid to because of the current laws requiring the patient to be reported to the authorities if the patient is deemed to be a threat to children.
I spent 3 months in a rehabilitation hospital as an out-patient recovering from alcohol abuse. I remember there were no questions asked about childhood abuse. While talking privately to other patients, many revealed some type of real or perceived abuse. However, it seemed to me that the patients goals were to serve their time in rehab and get released; the doctors main concern was to give the patients coping mechanisms to live their life day to day without abusing their drug of choice. All too often physicians deal with controlling the symptoms and not the underlying problems causing the symptoms.
In conclusion of this chapter Amy states, "When we get past the outrage, perhaps we may more clearly see our way into how to deal more effectively with the problem: how to treat criminals who have victimized children, how to help those who are beginning to become sexual predators, and how to empower our children so that they may become invulnerable to sexual abuse." page 206, para.2. Until that day arrives, pedophiles who abuse children forfeit their access to children. Future generations of children should be protected at all costs. Abuse must stop here and now.
Your comments are appreciated.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Conversation With a Pedophile: Chapter 24: Alan: Punishment for Pedophiles, book by, Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin
Chapter 24: Alan: Punishment for Pedophiles
Alan writes, "When I was in my distorted world of fantasy and escalation, knowing that the penalty had been increased would not have stopped me at all." page 198, para 2. Pedophiles will not stop on their own because their disease is one of no boundaries and depends on secrecy. I sit here searching for words on this very complex disorder. I have stated my feelings that pedophilia should be dealt with prior to an innocent child being victimized. The first step could be identifying a genetic marker, or hormone imbalance, or psychological tendency toward pedophilia at an early age. Also consider that a pedophile could be a victim of pedophilia as a child, and this abuse creates their obsession for victimizing children. Hopefully a person conditioned to behave in a certain fashion can ultimately be reconditioned to live responsibly. The questions deserve research funding from the National Institute of Health. Society needs answers and positive prognosis to stem the tide of child abuse from pedophilia.
Perhaps we need treatment centers for current pedophiles, a type of mental hospital where they can be removed from their 'drug' of choice (children), given medication to allow them to listen to their doctors, learn coping mechanism that will eventually allow them to reenter the world without being a threat to other children. Prison accomplishes the goal of protecting children, but fails to rehabilitate the pedophile for their eventual release.
When I talked my brother into seeking help he knew about "Megan's Law", and therefore would not be honest with the therapist. Alan shares his opinion,"If the penalty for molesting is life in prison and the penalty for murder is the same, then the panic-stricken mind of an already unstable man is likely to see he has nothing to lose by murdering the only witness to his crime. Because the vast majority of pedophiles would not [ordinarily] consider taking a victim's life, is it truly in the best interest of society to create a situation wherein that thought might be generated by fear of this enhanced punishment? page 198, para. 3. Being a victim myself, it is hard to appraise the topic of punishment for pedophilia without thinking in harsh terms. Moreover the possibility of being murdered intensifies these feelings. In a more perfect world, I would have been separated from my brother and mother and my younger brother could have been separated from my mother. We would all lived better lives, with the emphasis on lived. Alan concludes, "There must be a better way." page 201, para. 2. I agree.
Your comments are appreciated.
Alan writes, "When I was in my distorted world of fantasy and escalation, knowing that the penalty had been increased would not have stopped me at all." page 198, para 2. Pedophiles will not stop on their own because their disease is one of no boundaries and depends on secrecy. I sit here searching for words on this very complex disorder. I have stated my feelings that pedophilia should be dealt with prior to an innocent child being victimized. The first step could be identifying a genetic marker, or hormone imbalance, or psychological tendency toward pedophilia at an early age. Also consider that a pedophile could be a victim of pedophilia as a child, and this abuse creates their obsession for victimizing children. Hopefully a person conditioned to behave in a certain fashion can ultimately be reconditioned to live responsibly. The questions deserve research funding from the National Institute of Health. Society needs answers and positive prognosis to stem the tide of child abuse from pedophilia.
Perhaps we need treatment centers for current pedophiles, a type of mental hospital where they can be removed from their 'drug' of choice (children), given medication to allow them to listen to their doctors, learn coping mechanism that will eventually allow them to reenter the world without being a threat to other children. Prison accomplishes the goal of protecting children, but fails to rehabilitate the pedophile for their eventual release.
When I talked my brother into seeking help he knew about "Megan's Law", and therefore would not be honest with the therapist. Alan shares his opinion,"If the penalty for molesting is life in prison and the penalty for murder is the same, then the panic-stricken mind of an already unstable man is likely to see he has nothing to lose by murdering the only witness to his crime. Because the vast majority of pedophiles would not [ordinarily] consider taking a victim's life, is it truly in the best interest of society to create a situation wherein that thought might be generated by fear of this enhanced punishment? page 198, para. 3. Being a victim myself, it is hard to appraise the topic of punishment for pedophilia without thinking in harsh terms. Moreover the possibility of being murdered intensifies these feelings. In a more perfect world, I would have been separated from my brother and mother and my younger brother could have been separated from my mother. We would all lived better lives, with the emphasis on lived. Alan concludes, "There must be a better way." page 201, para. 2. I agree.
Your comments are appreciated.
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Conversation With a Pedophile: Chapter 23: The Public and Pedophilia, book written by Dr. Amy Hammel-Zabin
Chapter 23: The Public and Pedophilia
Amy: Megan's Law has tremendous impact on both the public and the pedophile. There is frequent news coverage of the reactions of communities to the disclosure of the proximity of released convicts. Public outrage is wide and can be inflammatory. I find this legislation troubling and complex its position implies that pedophiles do not reenter society rehabilitated and that the prison experience does little to deter the offender from offending again. I agree with Amy when she says that the prison system has failed to treat pedophiles, however, Alan's letters prove that the pedophile cannot be cured. He wrote over and over about the inmates that had received therapy, when confronted with temptation returned to their old ways. Should our society treat a first time sex offender as harshly as we treat repeat offenders? I say yes. Show me proof that a pedophile can be cured and I may change my mind. All I know is once you are subjected to abuse your life is never the same. We should do everything to protect our children from pedophiles.
Alan: "Imprisonment is not and can never be a substitute for therapy. On top of this, imprisonment in a system that turns a blind eye to the repeated brutal treatment of your pedophiles does nothing but instill within them a sense of rage." page 193, para. 4 "I have heard of two different cases, both of which were young pedophiles subjected to abusive behavior during the period of their imprisonments; Both of these guys were released from prison. Shortly after their releases, both of them acted out sexually against young boys. In both cases, the victims of their second, post release crimes ended up being murdered."page 194, para 2. "When I was fourteen or so, and knew that I had a major problem, I also knew that there was no place to turn. My one parent who was aware of the problem simply did not know how to handle it and ended up refusing to admit that the problem existed. Had I admitted to other adults that I had fantasies and thought of unnatural sexual activities with little children. I would have been marked for life as some sort of freak and virtually cast out of society. For a teenage or younger pedophile today, nothing has changed. page 195, para 1. I tried to reach my younger brother to no avail. I knew he needed help and I tried to get him help but he would not cooperate. Was he afraid of being locked up? Yes. Did I think he needed to be locked up? Yes. I told my brother never to return to the small town where he was accused of improper behavior with a co-workers young son, and where he lost his job. However he returned to the boy and was caught in the boys home by the boys Mother. That was the incident that sent my brother to jail for 6 years. Did he receive any therapy in jail? He told my mother that he had not. Today he is released from prison and on the sexual offenders list. Do I think he has stopped abusing children? No! I believe there is no cure for pedophilia and once identified, they should be locked up for life with no access to children. One strike and your out!
Parents should check the list of sexual offenders in and around the neighborhoods their children play and walk to school in. They should check the list for all of the zip codes that are included in the school their children attend. This list is available. Understandably there are pedophiles that have never been caught, but at least this list is a starting place. If the parents or brother, aunt or uncle of one of the children in your child's school is a sexual offender, then your child could be at great risk of being abused at school. Alan wrote about many of his victims becoming pedophiles themselves.
Your comments are appreciated.
Amy: Megan's Law has tremendous impact on both the public and the pedophile. There is frequent news coverage of the reactions of communities to the disclosure of the proximity of released convicts. Public outrage is wide and can be inflammatory. I find this legislation troubling and complex its position implies that pedophiles do not reenter society rehabilitated and that the prison experience does little to deter the offender from offending again. I agree with Amy when she says that the prison system has failed to treat pedophiles, however, Alan's letters prove that the pedophile cannot be cured. He wrote over and over about the inmates that had received therapy, when confronted with temptation returned to their old ways. Should our society treat a first time sex offender as harshly as we treat repeat offenders? I say yes. Show me proof that a pedophile can be cured and I may change my mind. All I know is once you are subjected to abuse your life is never the same. We should do everything to protect our children from pedophiles.
Alan: "Imprisonment is not and can never be a substitute for therapy. On top of this, imprisonment in a system that turns a blind eye to the repeated brutal treatment of your pedophiles does nothing but instill within them a sense of rage." page 193, para. 4 "I have heard of two different cases, both of which were young pedophiles subjected to abusive behavior during the period of their imprisonments; Both of these guys were released from prison. Shortly after their releases, both of them acted out sexually against young boys. In both cases, the victims of their second, post release crimes ended up being murdered."page 194, para 2. "When I was fourteen or so, and knew that I had a major problem, I also knew that there was no place to turn. My one parent who was aware of the problem simply did not know how to handle it and ended up refusing to admit that the problem existed. Had I admitted to other adults that I had fantasies and thought of unnatural sexual activities with little children. I would have been marked for life as some sort of freak and virtually cast out of society. For a teenage or younger pedophile today, nothing has changed. page 195, para 1. I tried to reach my younger brother to no avail. I knew he needed help and I tried to get him help but he would not cooperate. Was he afraid of being locked up? Yes. Did I think he needed to be locked up? Yes. I told my brother never to return to the small town where he was accused of improper behavior with a co-workers young son, and where he lost his job. However he returned to the boy and was caught in the boys home by the boys Mother. That was the incident that sent my brother to jail for 6 years. Did he receive any therapy in jail? He told my mother that he had not. Today he is released from prison and on the sexual offenders list. Do I think he has stopped abusing children? No! I believe there is no cure for pedophilia and once identified, they should be locked up for life with no access to children. One strike and your out!
Parents should check the list of sexual offenders in and around the neighborhoods their children play and walk to school in. They should check the list for all of the zip codes that are included in the school their children attend. This list is available. Understandably there are pedophiles that have never been caught, but at least this list is a starting place. If the parents or brother, aunt or uncle of one of the children in your child's school is a sexual offender, then your child could be at great risk of being abused at school. Alan wrote about many of his victims becoming pedophiles themselves.
Your comments are appreciated.
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